Becoming self-aware is a process. It’s a process that continues as you change and the environment around you change. Starting this process is something that is fundamentally your decision. You and only you can decide to open up and embark upon this journey of self discovery. You cannot be forced and you cannot be taught to take the first step. Much like falling in love, you cannot be forced to love.
Perhaps if we recognized that by being self-aware, you may become happier. You may start to move towards doing the things that is truly you, not “forced upon” by society, by your parents, by your professors. You may start to care about the things that truly matter to you, instead of spending time focusing on things that you think you should care about.